Trust After Trauma

I used to blame my difficult past for my present suffering. I burdened myself with such weight, carrying heavy baggage on my chest for what felt like an eternity. The sheer grief one experiences when they lose their sense of safety and family cannot be put into words. This excruciating toxic relationship of self-hate lingered for eons.

Picking myself up and putting the pieces of my life back together was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do — but also the most rewarding. I now see past the trauma and acknowledge the blessings in my life. Blessings like compassion, unconditional love, self-forgiveness, and feeling free are priceless in the pursuit of a happy life. Today, I have immense gratitude for that connection with my body and heart.

I’m grateful to be alive and loving myself every day. All of this, my entire path of redemption, started with that first step of healing: speaking up and releasing my voice. First being radically honest with what felt broken and then sharing my truth with others. Self-empowerment is the only way to reclaim the story of your life. Anyone can do it, it’s all about taking that first step. So where can you begin? Well, creating a daily devotional self trust ritual will be the launchpad towards a beautiful and intimate new reality. This can be by trusting yourself to speak love over yourself each morning. Listening to music your soul needs. Spilling your heart out in your journal. Finding a pleasure practice that brings you back to all your senses.  You are always experiencing your own story, and only you can rewrite it. During this process, a little spiritual guidance and support can go a long way.

You see healing trauma is not linear, nor a circle. It’s a spiral where you meet yourself again and again. However, in stillness, you will be able to gauge your emotions and your inner state. When moving forward after trauma, it’s important to invite a holistic approach to heal. You can’t try to solve traumas unless you account for all the variables and walk through the full path one step at a time. Creating a devotional spiritual practice invites you to develop self-trust and heal from the inside out. Through this mindful connection, you will find the courage to forgive and free yourself. Forgiveness is essential for building trust if you hope to truly let go of the negative emotions that the traumatic experience brought on you. Forgiving yourself for self-blame and isolation. It’s about forgiving a culture that does not know how to deal with healing. Forgiveness with yourself in those moments of chaos.   Forgiveness is an intimate layered process and comes in stages. It can never be rushed nor forced, but the sooner you take steps towards letting go of hate, the sooner you’ll reach your state of serenity.

The most pivotal step through trust is also restoring a healthy relationship with a partner. Moving past the trauma and onto a love-filled life will be a lot tougher if you don’t attempt retrieving positive associations with a partner. It’s the sensation of fully trusting someone with your heart and body, eliminating any distance between your vulnerability, and providing intentional care for one another.

The most genuine form of affection that you can display is to trust in another person, because you truly love them and want to share your deepest desires with them. We need to re-introduce a healthy partnership in our lives. A positive relationship where trust, commitment, and respect are honored by both parties. This form of affection is pivotal to feeling safe enough to receive love again in both sexual and sacred partnerships. It’s every woman’s birthright. 

Ultimately, the most important relationship you will have is the one with yourself. Make an effort to intimately connect with your body after a traumatic experience. Connect with trust as you begin to explore the wisdom of your body again. 

Wherever you are in your devotional journey, I’m inviting you to welcome yourself back into the light. Start loving yourself, choose to make the hurting stop, and experience all the unforgettable and pleasurable moments you’ve been missing out on. Trust happens in between this sacred devotion back home to you. 

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